What makes us different?

The core reason I believe Icing Queens is different, is because we believe so heavily on creating safe spaces where we can all just be truly and wholly ourselves. Where we can feel safe to be imperfect, and make mistakes.

2025 taught me that I no longer wish or long to meet every goal or accomplish every task. I would far rather revel in what I currently have, than constantly push to achieve more.

I realize that I haven’t taken the time to just be happy with what I’ve already done, because internally my entire life, if I am not pushing myself for more growth than what even is my purpose?

I think I’ve been so heavily conditioned by childhood trauma that I had to prove myself. Not just to the world, but to me, and me was impossible.

Recently I’ve learned to center my expectations, slow down, and just SIT in what is…because honestly? What currently is, is pretty amazing. Constantly chasing more has not allowed me the peace to sit in it, take it in, and appreciate the beauty of what 2025 brought to our lives.

I exhausted myself. I chased empty friendships. I gave more than I should have, freely. I trusted too naively. I gave with an empty hope to somewhere, somehow receive back what I was pouring out, but it never came, and so I collapsed inwards. I shut down. My body crashed physically and mentally. All the signs were there but I ignored them until life made the decision for me.

So as I enter 2026, you may see me slow down in my pursuits to grow the biggest business, worried that “someone else might do it before me.” -because truly, let them? I’m just happy what I have with all of you exists.

I’m going to take my time to focus on the friends who’ve been there for me through all of this. Spend time with my family not just existing, but being PRESENT. Enjoy every moment and actually have the energy to do so. I’m reclaiming the joy that life brings, that sadly, was a distant memory most of 2025, even if it didn’t appear as so.

As I still recover from being extremely ill, and go through my cocktail of prescribed medications supposed to make me better, I am thinking of all those I’ve had the greatest time knowing. Those who brought joy when joy felt distant. Those who brought kindness, lent a hand, helped me grow and taught me new skills. Those who rallied behind me in every challenge I took on and those who truly believed in us.

Thank you. Thank you for being a part of my journey. And while 2026 might look slower, just remember that we’ve always been a place meant to slow down, and I can’t foster that if I’m not practicing it myself.

So here’s to a slow, nurturing, 2026. Where we can all grow slowly, and savor our mistakes, because we absolutely will still be eating them!